I have bathroom renovation regrets. There…I said it. It’s been two years since we remodeled our upstairs bathroom, and I’ve had plenty of time to think through the choices we made and what we would change if we could do it over.
Let me be clear, this is absolutely a first-world problem. Our girls are incredibly fortunate to have such a beautiful, modern, clean bathroom. I grew up with one bathroom for our entire family of seven, and it had carpet…carpet! So, when I say I have bathroom renovation regrets, it’s relative to the fact that we spent hard-earned money on design decisions that may look different if we were renovating it now or if we had gone at a slower pace.
Let me explain one by one. Click through to read about my five bathroom renovation regrets and how I plan to resolve them.
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Regret #1 | Taste-Specific, Pricey Shower Tile
When we began the planning phase of remodeling this bathroom, I couldn’t believe the overwhelming amount of tile choices out there. I saw this marble arabesque tile at Lowe’s and that was it for me…I fell hard for it. It didn’t occur to me to look at different options because I had never chosen tile before. Polka dots on marble seemed so darling for my girls. And it was…it is. But we were brand spankin’ new homeowners on top of being brand spankin’ new renovators, and it showed through decisions like this. We rushed things, we didn’t lay out lots of different options, and we didn’t narrow anything down by budget. All big mistakes in the world of renovation.
Oh, and the most frustrating part of this bathroom renovation regret was the cost. We miscalculated how much we would need, and it was a pricey tile to begin with. So, by the time all was said and done, this was accidentally and unnecessarily the most expensive element in the space.
Takeaway: If I could do it over, I would set a budget and find a beautiful tile choice for a whole lot less, especially now that I know what’s out there. At the end of the day though, I’m okay with the tile because at least it’s not boring, it goes with any color, and it’s classic. It may be taste-specific (read: too fancy, too fussy), but marble is always a good choice.
Regret #2 | Countertops That Didn’t Match The Design
I don’t hate these countertops, but I went with a more modern pattern of quartz because a company offered it to me for free in exchange for promotion. I was trying to be financially wise, but I could have chosen a less expensive shower tile and budgeted for a natural stone remnant to be fabricated. This was a very big lesson I learned during the process.
Takeaway: Though this particular countertop is too modern and edgy for the English cottage vibe of our house, I don’t think it would bother most people. So, even if it bugs me, the fact that it’s new, light, and durable adds value to our home, and that is something to be happy about.
Regret #3 | Settling For Floors I Didn’t Love
To put it plainly, I let our contractor talk me out of the floors I really wanted. He didn’t want to do the work of laying smaller tiles with more character, and I let him convince me we should go with large-scale tiles. They’re clean and bright, but cold and boring at the same time because of all the other white in the space. I wish I would have stuck to my guns and taken on the DIY myself or at least halted construction until I could figure out the best compromise…not these tiles.
Takeaway: They’re just floors, and any future buyers (if we ever sell) will love how easy they are to keep clean and how light and bright they make the space. I mean, look at how dark the bathroom was before. I think all the white in here was a knee-jerk reaction to so much brown!
Regret #4 | Not Adding a Pocket Door
Once I gave up on this idea because other people couldn’t see the value in it, I instantly regretted it. I didn’t want to take out the dividing wall between the vanity area and the shower/toilet area because I love the fact that one of my daughters can be getting ready while the other one is showering. But, it would have been so functional to have a pocket door that didn’t swing into the tiny shower/toilet area.
Takeaway: Having a pocket door would have really opened up that shower/toilet area, and I do wish I would have insisted on having it done before the floor tiles were laid. But, pocket doors are not at all common in Southern California, so it really would have been just for us. Adding one wouldn’t have increased our home’s value and not adding one didn’t hurt it either. So, I can live with this bathroom renovation regret.
Regret #5 | Not Adding More Storage
I love character, reusing things, and making the best of what I’ve got. But I should have listened to Jeff when he suggested getting a new vanity. Again, things were moving fast and we were inexperienced. This seemed like an economical, sentimental decision, but Jeff could see the lack of storage in this vanity and how a bigger, newer vanity would have benefitted our girls and any future homeowners. To be honest, I was afraid of the expense of a large vanity. This was already an unplanned renovation, for which we had not budgeted, so I was trying to make everything as painless as possible for Jeff. My heart was in the right place, but my head was not.
Takeaway: The wonderful thing about this regret is that it can be changed. We don’t plan to change it, but if we ever did, it would be a doable DIY. Also, there’s a floor-to-ceiling cabinet right outside the girls’ bathroom door where towels and linens live, so storage is really only a problem inside the main portion of the bathroom.
Most of these problems were due to the fact that we were not taking our time. In fact, I would say we were rushing everything so our girls could have a functioning bathroom. Plus, I can’t handle having trades people in my house day after day for very long, and I just wanted them out. We shouldn’t have hired anything out until we were absolutely certain of our design choices. Instead, we were making them during the work, and I felt pressured.
Now that I have no pressure or time constraints, I’ve come up with a solution to remedy my regrets.
The Remedy for Bathroom Renovation Regrets
Here is my plan to visually warm up this bathroom and make it a space our girls want to use. They appreciate all the hard work and money that went into it, but they both say it’s cold and uninviting in there, and they prefer our old, tiny shower downstairs to this one. I’m about to change that!
They’re already excited about this little refresh, and honestly, I get it. My environment affects me so much, and I like warm, welcoming spaces. Ready to see the small changes I’m going to make? Here they are…
I am SO excited about this mini-makeover. All the heavy lifting of a full renovation is already done. Now it just needs a little vintage, a touch of color, and a dose of personality. I’m collecting everything now so that once I have it all in my possession, I can do a quick weekend makeover.
Here’s what I’ll be doing:
- Adding a vintage runner over the tile in the vanity area (wanted to do this from day one)
- Changing the mirrors (these were inexpensive so I’m okay with replacing them)
- Adding character to my favorite sconce with patterned fabric shades
- Changing the wallpaper (I still love the original paper but want something warmer)
- Removing floating shelves (they are never used) and adding a vintage bamboo shelf over the toilet
- Changing shower curtain from gray to a warm rust color
- Hanging a piece of art over the hooks in the shower area (printable art that can’t get ruined)
So, that’s it. What do you think of my regrets and my remedy?
Do you have renovation regrets? Let’s talk about it in the comments below!
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Marynnu, I have not seen any post from you and couldn’t help but wonder, are you okay!
I miss your blog and your wonderful ideas. Please come back!
Marsha Daubenmire
Hi Marsha…thank you for checking on me. I’m sorry I’ve been away for awhile. I needed to take an unplanned break from everything due to some health issues and family demands, but I’ll be back VERY soon! I’m still here…thank you for hanging in there with me 😉
I’m super curious- does the little window in the vanity area face north, by chance? It seems like feeling cold and uninviting is a common struggle with north-facing rooms, while it’s easier to get a south-facing room to feel warm and comfortable. And seeing the refresh, I love that you were able to use the rug by cutting it! It’s like the stars aligning- or little miracles, really- when saved items come in handy like that! Thank you for having the courage to be honest about not being happy with your first results and allowing us all to learn with you!
Yes, it does face North, and I’m sure that was part of the problem, which I did not consider when we remodeled the first time around. I’m so glad I was able to warm it up with paint and wallpaper because there’s nothing I can do about it’s location…lol. Yes, the rug situation was definitely a little miracle, and I’ll always be honest with you guys 😉
As is, this bathroom looks far from ‘uninviting’ to me, but I do love the plans you have for injecting warmth through colour and texture. My immediate thought was ‘change the wallpaper’, and I have been a fan of the one on your mood board for some time.
I can definitely relate to being rushed into design decisions not properly considered. Our family of six (now seven) had been living in a tiny two-bedroom cottage with no kitchen, bathroom, or laundry, for two years, and despite sourcing and budget constraints, we pushed through to completion on our build just to move in that bit sooner.
We had incorrect tiles delivered that we used in order to stick to the build schedule, other products that were very different to what was described online…
If I could go back in time, I would tell myself to have patience, and never to order tiles without at least seeing a sample in person!
I can’t wait to see your updates installed, and am feeling motivated to ‘tweak’ our bathrooms, too!
Thank you for weighing in on this…I think it FEELS more uninviting in person than it looks online. We have learned SO MUCH from that experience so that if we ever build a home or renovate again, we won’t make these mistakes. I can’t wait to make these changes…I think they’ll happen in the next week or two!
While I LOVE the bathroom, I think the refresh will be adorable. We have the same floor tile in my daughter’s shared bathroom and I hate it. Same reason, we needed a decision NOW, and I regret it.
Biggest lesson learned: tile is NOT something you can change easily if you don’t love it, so you better take your time and LOVE it. Oh well…at least it’s updated, pretty, and I can put a big ole rug over it 😉
I really appreciate your posting this and being honest with yourself and readers about your regrets and the lessons learned. It’s hard to accept that sometimes we learn best from mistakes, but it’s often the case. I think your ideas for beautifying the room are great and will make a huge difference in the feel of the space. I look forward to seeing it with the improvements!
~ Paula
Thank you so much Paula! I’m nothing if not honest and real, and I enjoy connecting with people on that level. It’s all just stuff anyway, so if we make mistakes, it’s okay to admit it and find a way to love it anyway or fix it. It is hard though…I’ll admit that too! Thank you for stopping by the blog and stay tuned for the fun updates!
This bathroom is beautiful but I absolutely adore your plan to bring in those warm tones. This is going to be even more beautiful when you are finished!
Thank you Erin! Yeah, I still love that the bathroom is renovated, and it’s beautiful for sure. I just want to warm things up and make it cozier. I need to bring down the brightness just a tad and add in some contrast. But we do love that bathroom!
I am in the process of getting quotes for a small renovation. You have given some great tips about not rushing thru the project. We also have carpet in our master bathroom and it’s disgusting!!! That was just a builder choice when we built this house 22 yrs ago. We were definitely young and didn’t have a clue. Fast forward, there’s not much we can do about the layout unless we plan to make this our forever home, which we do not!!! But the shower stall which is separate from the tub needs replacing along with the flooring and then the rest is just refresh/decorative choices. I really enjoy your Instagram and blog!
Hi Marilyn…thank you for stopping by the blog. If we were still in the first home we bought, we’d probably be in the same situation…just making due because we definitely don’t plan for CA to be our forever state. We want to invest in our home because it’s where our kids are growing up, but we are saving “dream” renovation plans for when we’re retired and have a home for grandkids to come to. It’s fun to think about what we would do if we were doing it forever, but I’m kind of glad we get to “practice” and learn allllllll the lessons with this home.
Hi Maryann
I’m glad I’m not the only one – I just finished our ensuite and regretting some choice eg the vanity is not the colour I wanted but I couldn’t get many options because of the pandemic and I just settled on one which I now don’t love. I also have shiny and ages brass and feel like they clash so now I want to change to more intentional mixed metals but I totally feel indulgent!!! Good to know I’m not alone!
It’s hard not to feel indulgent with things like this, but at the end of the day, we have spent money investing in changes to our home so we should at least remedy what we can if it doesn’t put us out much or cause waste. You are definitely NOT alone!